#18: The Guide to Creating YOUR Perfect DayNov 12, 2023
Life is hard. We know it.
It’s also beautiful. And we can influence it more than we realize.
On a personal, business, and spiritual (inner work) level, it’s been an eventful year.
I’ve evolved quite a bit. And when you evolve, you feel different about life. It’s a signal to act, an opportunity to leave your personal status quo behind.
That’s the point of this newsletter.
There’s a framework to do it.
Anyone can change their life. Anyone can beat their own status quo.
It stems from dreaming, finding what’s stopping that dream from happening, then acting to eliminate that ‘thing’… a process I’ve followed for years in various forms.
When we evolve, what we want out of life changes.
When we age, what we want out of life changes.
When our values shift, what we want out of life changes.
But so many never act on it. Why?
The truth is many are motivated but lack a repeatable framework to do so.
So… I created one, and I’ve used it to help 130+ coaching students do the same. I know it works. I’m very proud of it.
I completed my own process again this week, and I’m sharing it to show you how it can work for you.
While I didn’t include every detail for personal reasons, my ‘perfect day’ and ‘lifestyle blueprint’ are at a level of transparency that will help you understand what’s required.
Lean in, take control of life. No one will do it for you.
The Problem Statement
Your Personal Status Quo…
…a cozy, well-worn blanket that wraps around you, offering familiarity and comfort. It's the path of least resistance, the default setting that requires no active decision-making or unsettling ventures into the unknown. It’s missed opportunities and a life confined to the boundaries of what you already know.
People don’t realize we lose the presence of life in accepting a routine we never intended (think taking the train every day, eating a sandwich, and sitting in an office cube... pressing repeat for 20 years).
So, let’s change our personal status quo…
The Solution Framework
Here’s the general script…
- Write your perfect day in extreme detail
- Break it down into goals across 5 freedom areas
- Determine blockers keeping you from reaching each goal
- Create action items to get over the blockers. Execute. Reevaluate. Iterate. Execute.
The result is a “lifestyle blueprint”, your roadmap to creating your reality.
I’ve been doing this for years. It’s powerful and effective.
Write your perfect day in extreme detail
When you draft your perfect day, you're not just creating a list of wishes; you're actively engaging imagination and emotions. The process involves visualizing details of your ideal scenario, from the moment you wake up, to your activities throughout the day, to the relationships you want to have.
You're forming new neural connections associated with these thoughts. The more detailed and emotionally charged your descriptions are, the stronger these neural connections become. This is because your brain doesn't always distinguish between what's real and what's vividly imagined.
Repetition and detail are key when it comes to engraining ideas in your nervous system. That’s why I encourage writing vs. a vision board. It’s more detailed with emotions involved. By writing your perfect day scenario regularly, you reinforce those neural pathways. This process can have a profound impact on your subconscious mind, influencing your beliefs, attitudes, and ultimately, your actions.
In essence, you're programming your mind to seek out opportunities and make choices that align with that vision. It's a way of priming yourself for success and creating a mindset that propels you towards your goals.
Now here’s the #1 thing that derails people… lack of patience.
It took me 5 years to get a speaking role on an HBO Series, 2 years to be in a Disney movie.
I had the idea to be a police officer in 2004. I graduated academy in 2009.
I saw Matt Damon as Jason Bourne surface in the Mediterranean Sea as a secret agent in the 2002 movie. The idea of doing unique things in unique places to help people stuck with me. I became a Federal Agent and ran my first field office in Washington DC in 2004. I became my own ‘Jason Bourne’ when I ran a field office on the Aegean Sea (Izmir, Turkey) and Red Sea (Djibouti, Africa) in 2015 and 2016. Took a long time, but I never stopped working on it.
Things don’t happen overnight. Patience, work, and faith… all required.
Now, to be clear… I’m not a doctor. Do your own research.
There’s an enormous amount of literature on the topic of rewiring neural pathways. I’ve done mine, including speaking with a human behavioralist and neurologist. Humans are fascinating creatures!
Break your perfect day into tangible goals across 5 freedom areas
- Time Freedom
- Financial Freedom
- Geographic Freedom
- Freedom to Execute Your Purpose
- Freedom to Build Meaningful Relationships
These freedoms are interconnected and contribute to a holistic sense of well-being, allowing us to live authentically and pursue what truly matters to us. Each freedom plays a role in creating a life that is not only successful in the external sense but also deeply fulfilling on a personal and emotional level. All tools to plug into the planet and earth as intended.
Identify the blockers keeping you from achieving those goals
Goals have blockers, tangible or intangible factors stopping you from making them happen. The key is identifying that which prevents us, getting them out of your head onto paper to see them objectively. They’re not impossible, just issues to work on. Be brutally honest with yourself when identifying blockers.
By the way, YOU are likely your biggest blocker. Mindset plays a huge role.
Identify and create actions to get over the blockers
This is the work, of creating and executing actions to overcome blockers. Could be contacting a person, getting a piece of information, or formulating a strategy. This is where I keep myself and coaching students accountable. It’s not easy because hard decisions must be made. It forces you to get comfortable being uncomfortable doing things you’ve never done to get what you’ve never had. But again, that’s the work. And this is usually where people quit or get overwhelmed. Don’t let that happen. Get support.
Let’s say you have geographic freedom-related goals to work anywhere in the world. A severe blocker to this goal is a job that requires you to be at the office.
The action items to get over the blockers might be:
- Research virtual positions with the company
- Schedule meetings with supervisor to discuss options
- Construct and present role company can’t refuse
- Initiate passive searches on LinkedIn for remote roles
- Share with wife/husband desire to be more mobile; build joint plan
- Connect with like-minded people who already live how you want to live
This is a big issue with many stuck in the office daily, yet they want mobility to live more.
Look at my blueprint to see what my blockers are and how I’m attacking them.
Creating a lifestyle blueprint is simple in organization but difficult in execution. The act of identifying the goals, blockers, and actions starts your journey. Then it’s discipline to execute and find support to stay the course (note: like-minded tribe really helps).
I know this is a lot of information. But your life and how you live it is worth the effort. Whether my framework or some other, don’t let the status quo define you. Take control. Find a framework and execute.
Again, it’s worth the effort. We have this one life to live, and I plan on living it to the fullest.
Every time I do this exercise, I realize how in control of my life I really am. Happiness requires evolving. Evolving comes self-understanding, learning from mistakes, getting rid of blockers, and being open to change… and the framework helps you act and secure that dream.
I hope this helps you build a lifestyle, your way.
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